This Isn’t the Version You See Online ☕

Before anything else…I want you to understand where this actually started. Not the polished version. Not the everything worked out perfectly version. The real one because what I’ve built now didn’t come from having a plan. It didn’t come from confidence. It didn’t come from knowing what I was doing.

It came from figuring things out while everything felt like it was falling apart. I became a mom at 17 and at that point in my life I didn’t even know if I was going to graduate high school. There was no roadmap. No stability. No this is how it’s all going to work out.

Just me…trying to understand how my life changed so fast. When you’re that young people don’t support you the way they should. They judge you. They talk about you.
They assume your life is already decided for you and for a while…I believed that too.

At some point I thought I found stability. Someone who said the right things. Someone who made it feel like I wasn’t alone anymore but what I didn’t realize at the time…was that I had walked into something completely different.

That relationship became abusive. Not all at once. Not in a way that’s easy to explain. It started small. Little comments. Little control. Little moments where I started second guessing myself.

Until eventually…I didn’t recognize myself at all. I wasn’t living. I was surviving.

Walking on eggshells. Trying not to say the wrong thing. Trying to keep peace in a situation that was never peaceful snd the hardest part? You start to believe it.

You start to believe this is what you deserve, this is normal, you won’t do better, no one else will want you. That kind of mindset doesn’t just go away overnight.

I was sitting there holding our son…and it was the worst it had ever gotten that night and something just clicked. I realized if I didn’t leave…this was going to be our life and I couldn’t let that happen.

So I made a decision with no real plan, no safety net, no guarantee anything would work out. I chose the unknown over what I knew was breaking me and that decision changed everything.

Leaving didn’t fix everything. It made things harder in a different way. I was a single mom with almost nothing.

No stability. No clear direction. No blueprint for how to rebuild my life.

There were nights I didn’t know how I was going to make things work. Days where I was exhausted in every way possible but I kept going.

Not because I had it all together…but because I didn’t have another option.

At some point I started trying to build something online and just like everything else…It was confusing.

There was so much advice. So many opinions. So many people telling you what you should be doing and none of it was actually helping things click.

It felt like do this, post more, buy this, try this, and follow this but no one was explaining why things worked…or why they didn’t. That’s when I started seeing things differently.

Because I’ve lived through real life…I don’t look at business the same way.

I don’t believe in fake urgency, surface level advice, pretending everything is simple,
building something that only looks good online, and selling people a dream.

I care about clarity, real strategy, building something that actually makes sense, and helping people understand what they’re doing because I know what it feels like to be overwhelmed and trying to figure everything out at the same time.

This isn’t just a blog. This is where I say the things people don’t say enough. This is where I call out what doesn’t make sense. This is where I break things down in a way that actually clicks. This is where I talk about the real side of building something while living a real life because you’re not just building a business.

You’re building it inside everything else you’re going through and that matters.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, like nothing is clicking, like you’re trying but not getting anywhere. I get it.

I’ve been there in more ways than one and I’m not here to talk at you. I’m here to be real with you.

When I look back now…I don’t see a girl who ruined her life like people said. I see someone who made hard decisions, learned the hard way, and still chose to build something better and that’s what this is all about.

Not perfection. Not pretending. Just building something real.

Welcome to Spill The Tea With Lexie Thank You For Reading ☕

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